What is the Hurry?
I am the mother of five children where four of them happened to be “men children.” I have really seen a severe injustice in my house over the years. For example, I don’t even try to request that the toilette seats be put down anymore, I will NEVER WIN that argument! (Smiles)
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PUT THE TOLIET SEAT DOWN!!! “PLEASE”
However, one of the most challenging experiences I have had over the years, was not to “Stress Out” over the little stuff…. and guess what? It is all small on a large scale. The stress and anxiety I would receive every time things didn’t happen when or like I wanted them to, was causing me to spend my days complaining, fussing, and just having a generally negative disposition.
We as a people tend to want what we want- when we want it.
This can be a dangerous mindset to have in business.
Somethings really just take time. Now that my children are older, we have moved on to bigger & better annoyances, like “hiding my keys” so my teenagers don’t go for a spin while I am asleep. (payback, mom I am sorry) To be honest, I don’t remember the last time the toilette seat was a problem. In fact, when I channeled my energies & frustrations away from the “instant alignment” mindset, I actually achieved better results.
In business, you may be tempted to try to make things happen for you instantly. Please note, I am not referring to ambition in this post. I am strictly speaking to areas in your business where time and consistency are the key ingredients for maturity.
Are you feeling stressed? Overwhelmed? Defeated?
Identify the root cause of the “rush emotions” in your business. Ask yourself a few questions.
- Am I doing too much right now, in my business? (too many irons in the fire?)
- Have I set realistic goals for my business?
- Do I have a written plan, that I can refer to, to chart my progress?
- Is there something I am doing right now, that can be delegating to another more capable team member?
- Have I taken the time to educate myself on the source(s) of my anxieties.
- Do I have a”Covet Spirit” in my business (this is where you want what your competitors have, “copycat syndrome”)
Patience Is More Than A Virtue In Business
One of the most damaging things a business/ entrepreneur can do online is try to rush their online engagement and growth. Think about how you fall in love with a product. You may see several commercials, hear it on the radio, watch a video on YouTube, and or receive an email about that product before you make a purchase. It really takes all of that!!
I spend a great deal of time training social media managers to become an authentic voice for the talent(s) they represent online. I insist that my clients resist the urge to make their online profiles a beggars door.
In other words, a beggars main message is extremely clear. The only statuses you would see down these timelines are,
- “BUY MY STUFF, BUY MY STUFF”
- “WATCH MY STUFF, WATCH MY STUFF”
- “LIKE MY STUFF, LIKE MY STUFF”
- “SHARE MY STUFF, SHARE MY STUFF”
- “JOIN MY THIS, JOIN MY THAT”
- “MEET ME HERE. MEET ME THERE”
A MAJOR NO, NO to say the least…..
If you take your time, and attempt to connect with your fans, friends, clients, or customers with a genuine spirit of gratitude, your business and online presence will grow organically on its own. The people on your social media networks have a better chance of actually converting into paying customers. The best thing is, you gain loyalty and trust for future projects.
If things are not happening as fast as you think they should in your business, remember consistency is key. When you start and stop, you will always move to the back of the line. Check out my talk on accountability. It may give you some pointers on surrounding yourself with people who know where you are trying to go and can help you during your times of high emotions. An accountability partner may just save your business!
So what does a marriage counselor have to do with business? A lot actually. Please join us in this audio podcast series with Marriage Counselor, Laimont Tubbs and Social Media Guru, Portia Chandler. Listen as they explore the parallels of marriage and business in their less than three minute chats